Love is letting go of fear

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I received many interesting comments
on the article I wrote on Saturday,
Japanese who doesn't like Japanese.

It reminded me of the book I read before,
which explains why people dislike and hate others,
and how to get rid of this mental mechanism.

LOVE IS LETTING GO OF FEAR

This is translated in much funnier Japanese
" forward force down ", the name of Sumo technique.




Hatred is another face of fear.
This book tells how to say goodbye to the bad memory
which is a source of the fear,
and move forward in your life.

There may be some people, things, and foods you don't like.
They appear to endanger your life and identity.
A human brain works to dislike and avoid these things.

So you wouldn't hate it if you don't fear it any more.
To do that, you need love.
In Japanese, it's called Omoiyari, caring spirit.
Caring not only others and things but yourself.

There was already a great song in 60s before this book came out.

All you need is love by beatles.

I believe John Lennon was a missionary man
who kept sending us a message of love.

Unfortunately, there are some people
who seem like fighting against this with own bullet proof glass.
The message never penetrates their mind.

People always fear and hate different kind of people,
use bluff and attack others are who I think very primitive.
Wild animals are like this and mentally immature people, too.

When you were a child, there must have been so many things you didn't like.
If I blame grownups who stay in the same as childhood,
it would be immature, so I should just feel sorry for them instead,
though I think they are not really good influence for others.

I said people dislike different kind of people,
but people also dislike someone who is a lot alike themselves.


He or she who shows you something you don't want to see in yourself.
It's one of the defense mechaisms that you avoid facing your shortcomings,
but this will be solved by accepting yourself, e.g. loving yourself.

Though people often misunderstand love as just spoiling oneself,
people who raised children and pets knows the difference very well.

Getting over fear is difficult by self deception instead of self loving.
Fear makes you stay inside of yourself and lose interest in others.
It leads you to hatred and friendlessness.
It means you start lacking to gain stimulations and knowledge from outside .
Very inconvenient cycle in your life.

Then there are various groups and ornizations
which come to canvass you in this cycle.

Their target is someone who has no family and friends but fear and hatred.
Some newly developped religeon, or some lobbying organizations,
or so called "patriotic" right wings and nationalits.
Many of them say they offer you a self awareness,
but actually it is only the feel of belonging.
Your lonliness and fear vanish by belonging to the organization.
You might say they fulfill needs and supplies.
I find many of their lobbying and attacking others are socially harmful.
Their wish for peace often turns out to be another conflict.

There is a war memorial day coming in Japan soon.
Not only pray for victims, step forward to learn this mechanism.
Understand others and love them even with their shortcomings.
That's what I was reminded and what I want to remind you of, too.

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